Author lifestyle
How to live the glamorous life of an author (or not)
Every now and then, the YouTube algorithm throws me something about fashion or lifestyle. I think itβs because I watch a lot of yarn, science, and climate change videos, so when I watch something about fast fashion vs. the planet, the algorithm gets confused and offers one about capsule wardrobes.
And even though Iβm not actually interested in these lifestyles for myself, sometimes I check out the videos. One I looked at today was about quitting the aforementioned capsule wardrobe. Last week, I saw one about letting go of minimalism. And these arenβt the only ones! There are so many variations on these types of videos, of (often) young YouTubers trying on different trendy lifestyles and deciding that they want something else. And I want to say upfront that this is totally fine β normal, even!
What interests me about them isnβt the discussion of the lifestyle itself β although it can sometimes feel like peering into another, fascinating world β but the explanation of why the person left the thing that was once so important to them. Something that appeared to bring them community, and a sense of identity so strong they had an entire channel dedicated to it.
After all, theyβd spent years cultivating those pure white backgrounds, clean lines, and a single rack of clothing. Theyβd purchased the items that would make the lifestyle work just right, such as matching food containers and the perfect t-shirt that went with everything. And theyβd donated or trashed all the βclutterβ in their homes.
But what I see from these quitting videos is that after some time has passed, there seems to be a struggle to maintain all that β and to find room for their own self expression and array of interests. They leave because they were sold an ideal, a version of life that didnβt fit with their actual needs and wants and habits.
Because it turns out that what works for some people doesnβt work for all people . . . even if we sometimes look at those room setups or outfits and think, That could be me. And also, That could solve all my problems.
I think we do this in writing, too.
When I was a new writer, I wrote what I wanted β what made me happy. But later, when I was hoping to find an agent and publisher, I started shifting the types of stories I wrote. It was partially to scratch a story itch in a subgenre I didnβt usually venture into, but also . . . Iβd convinced myself that if I wrote this type of story, it would get me published.
It would solve all my problems.
Spoiler: it didnβt.
Like these YouTubers realizing that they want colorful walls in their apartments, or the boring skincare works better for them than the high-end1, I began to get a clearer picture of the kind of stories I wanted to tell β the kind of stories that reflected my individual creativity.
It wasnβt until I stopped writing what I thought I should β and started writing for myself again β that I got agent offers and publishing contracts.
Iβm not saying that I totally ignore trends now, or that the market never influences what I write. I want to sell books as much as the next author. (My cats are used to a certain lifestyle and that lifestyle is prescription wet food.) But instead of intentionally writing something to fit a trend, I decide whether or not a specific trend fits with what I write. If it doesnβt, I donβt force it.
To be clear: Iβm glad I went through that phase. It taught me a lot about different subgenres. It forced me to stretch out of my comfort zone. And it truly clarified what kind of storyteller I am.
Iβm also glad that none of those stories got published. They werenβt the best representation of me as an author β and I would have been deeply unhappy to have to continue writing them if a publisher only wanted more of the same.
On a related note, I think itβs important to understand that there isnβt one specific author lifestyle. Itβs easy to assume there is, based on movies and TV, and even some social media feeds. But the truth is, thereβs no single author aesthetic, no lifestyle that is correct. First of all, many social media feeds are highly curated, including mine! Weβve all heard the phrase that social media is a highlight reel, right? Keep that in mind when you find yourself playing the comparison game!
Remember, there are as many ways to be an author as there are authors. I have friends with detailed lists and maps for every story they write; their walls look like murder boards. Some authors appear to have glamorous lives, filled with high-end fashion and exclusive invitations, while some of us are barely changing out of our nighttime pajamas into our daytime pajamas. Also, most of the coffee-shop writers I know just need a place with no kids, or a way to tell their brains, βOkay weβre going to work now.β
Your author lifestyle should fit you β your needs and schedules and creative patterns. Donβt force anything that doesnβt fit right, because youβre not supposed to fit into it. Itβs supposed to fit you. (To go back to the clothes metaphor.)
If youβre writing, youβre a writer. You donβt need anything else. Thereβs no fancy software to purchase, no proper way to set up your desk, no rules you must follow in order to be counted. If you want to try on the different writer hats, go for it! You might find something that works for you β or something that doesnβt work for you, which is just as valuable to know.
You already count. <3
In the comments, let me know what youβve tried and found useful! Or if you tried something and realized it wasnβt right for you at all.
One more thing!
Tomorrow, Iβll send another newsletter to the news and updates section with a fun thing for NIGHTRENDER readers, but hereβs the part of it thatβs live already: The ebook for NIGHTRENDER is on sale right now! Itβs 1.99 for a limited time. (I believe this is US only, but if youβre outside the US and see the sale, too, let me know!)
Here it is on Nook, Kobo, iBooks, and Kindle.
This is a great time to start the series or gift it to a friend! DAWNBREAKER will release on November 7!
Itβs me. Iβm the one with the boring skincare and it works.
I love everything about this post. A good reminder, for writers at all stages. π€
If you don't mind me asking (feel free to ignore), tell us your boring skincare products that work, please?